Left at the Altar

Well everyone is talking about the famous Richard Jefferson, who plays for the San Antonio Spurs, and his ex-fiancée Keshia Ni’cole Nichols, a former Nets dancer. It seems that this gorgeous ball player told Keshia, through email, that the wedding was called off on July 5th. This came shortly after Jefferson and Keshia spent July 4th weekend together and after Keisha had already boarded a plane back to New York. The wedding was set for July 11th. Jefferson, when asked why he chose to send an email to advise Keshia of this, replied that “sometimes you might write an email to get your thoughts down right”. This story kind of reminds of Carrie Bradshaw and Mr. Big in the Sex in the City movie (except Jefferson never even showed up in front of the Mandarin Oriental.

What I am having a hard time understanding is how Jefferson decided a week before the wedding that he had cold feet or didn’t want to get married and forgot to tell his guest, hotel and reception hall . It does seem that Jefferson and Keshia did, at least, tell their family on July 6th and July 7th.  It was reported that guest showed up to the Mandarin Oriental expecting to see a wedding but instead of watching the union just got dinner instead. Jefferson gave his black card to one of his friends and instructed him to treat the guest to a good time.

Keshia, however, did not walk away empty handed, it seems Jefferson gave her a $500,000 consolation prize. After the news broke rumors began to circulate about Jefferson being gay which of course he insists “that couldn’t be any further from the truth “and he has “nothing to hide”. I can believe that he is not gay but their obviously is more to this story Jefferson, so the nothing to hide part I just don’t believe, sorry.

Jefferson went on to say that a “combination of things led to the split” but that Keshia “is one of his best friends” and he had nothing bad to say about her. Keshia’s friend consoled her in a luxury suite at the Mandarin while Jefferson went to Paris with some basketball buddies. He claims that he took this trip to protect Keshia “because I care about her so much that I didn’t want to change my mind after those emails were sent”. Jefferson goes on to add that he “didn’t want to start missing her and decide, “let’s do this”.

Now I would hope that if I dated a someone for 5 years , that cold feet wouldn’t be enough to keep my fiancée from ditching me on our wedding day, despite any arguments we may have had leading up to the big day. Well maybe this is just my crazy way of thinking. Anyway Richard closes by saying that “the divorce rate is crazy out there” and “if you are not 100% certain about something you shouldn’t do it”.

My heart goes out to Keshia, but at least you got $100,000 for each year of your life Jefferson wasted. You are a beautiful girl and I know you will find someone who is more deserving of your hand in marriage.